How to Immediately Lower Stress & Get in Sync with Life - Who Am I Exercise +Restorative EO Recipe

Who Am I?

There is no right or wrong way to identify your self. However knowing how you think and feel about your self are all important considerations.

This is because, how you think and feel about yourself can increase or decrease your feelings of being grounded and able to cope with any of life's challenges.

How you identify yourself can not only add significantly to your level of stress, but also contribute enormously to feelings of being out of control and out of sync with life.

You can take immediate charge of yourself and your life, simply by taking a moment to reconnect with yourself and identify who you are.

You are continually broadcasting what you think and feel to your friends, family and the world around you. Don't kid yourself about that! Others are intuitively tuned into what you really think and how you really feel about them and your life circumstances.

Most importantly your self identity is the paradigm from which you operate in life and colors your perception of reality. In other words, how you see the world and the meaning you give to life events.

I'm going to guide you through a simple self identification 'Who Am I' exercise, but first I want to share with you the best essential oil to use for this exercise.

Key Essential Oil to Use

Tangerine (Citrus reticulata) - Cold pressed from fresh peel. Note: also sometimes referred to as Satsuma.

Aromas: Delightfully sweet, fresh, citrusy and fruity.

Whenever you need to open your mind and lighten up, look to Tangerine to lift you up. Although sometimes recommended as a substitute for Mandarin, the scent between these two oils is distinctly different. Tangerine oil is calming and restorative with a high note that is playful, refreshing and lifting. While, Mandarin has a lower note that is softly soothing, more grounding and feminine, without any noticeable lift and less complexity.

The primary chemical class for Tangerine oil is monoterpene. Monoterpenes have endurance and are long lasting in their effect. Monoterpenes are generally found in most all essential oils and are known to react readily to heat, light and air sources. For this reason bottles containing pure essential oils need to be tightly sealed and kept in a cool, dark place for storage. Monoterpenes have a masculine (yang character). Tangerine oil's yang quality helps balance out excessive yin states like weepiness and depression.

Chemical Family: Monoterpene 

  • Promotes fresh and peaceful state of mind
  • Promotes strength, stability, endurance and agility
  • Psycho-emotionally freeing to the senses
  • Enhances self esteem and feelings of self worth
  • Restorative oil for frazzled nerves
  • Potent antidote for an overly serious state of mind
  • Cleansing properties support a healthy immune system


Dispense 1-3 drops of Tangerine pure essential oil on a cotton ball, or smell strip. Slowly introduce the oils into your system by breathing in their vapors. Exhale fully and inhale once more. Continue breathing the aromatic vapors for 30-60 seconds. Then allow yourself to rest for 5 minutes.

Breathing in the vapors of your Tangerine oil several times each day will have a restorative effect on your mental faculties, help train your mind to be calm and enhance your inner resilience.

How to Stay Sane in an Insane World - Step 5

Who Am I Exercise

You are going to disclose to your self exactly how you think and feel about yourself by quickly jotting down how you primarily identify yourself.

The ways you might identify and think of yourself are countless. Just jot down whatever immediately comes to your mind.

Below are a list of just a few of the ways you might identify yourself. Do any of them apply to you?

  • Do you think of yourself primarily as a mom, dad or parent?
  • Do you identify yourself with a particular job or occupation?
  • Do you identify with a membership in an organization?
  • Do you identify with living in a certain neighborhood or town or part of the world, citizenship?
  • Do you identify as a vegan, a spiritual being, or athlete?
  • Do you identify as divorced, widowed, elderly, or disabled?
  • Do you identify as an entrepreneur, unemployed, retired, wealthy, or poor?
  • Do you identify as disenfranchised, or homeless?
  • Do you identify as someone who is strong, weak, a creator, an artist, a lover, or hater?
  • Do you identify as being courageous, resourceful, intelligent, or stupid?

It's important that you take the time to write down how you identify yourself, not just think about it in your head. Through this writing process you'll discover far more of the truth about how you truly "feel" about the identity paradigm you operate from within.

Check in now and find out.

After you have your list consider briefly how you "feel" about each of the ways you identify your self. Allow yourself to reveal your true feelings and emotions about how you identify yourself. 

After you complete your Who Am I exercise consider if you feel exhilarated when thinking about how you self identify. Maybe you want to expand this part of your identity?

Or, do you feel low energy when considering some of your self identities.

After assessing your feeling about how you identify yourself, maybe you want to release and let go of some of your self identifications that lower your energy.

Your mind will always identify you with something. You need to choose what feels best for you and supports you to most fully express your authentic being.

What did you learn from doing the "Who Am I" exercise?

Restorative EO Recipe

Try this essential oils blend when you’re needing to lighten up, or feeling exhausted from life’s demands.

To a 5ml (100 drops) euro-dropper bottle add:

  • Tangerine (Citrus reticulata) - 40 drops
  • Sweet Orange (Citrus sinensis) - 20 drops
  • Clary Sage (Salvia sclarea) - 20 drops
  • Ylang Ylang III (Cananga odorata) - 20 drops

Cap bottle tightly and shake vigorously to mix your oils thoroughly. Allow to synergize for 12 hours, or longer before using.

READ Next article in this series, How to Rid Yourself of Anxious Feelings +Emotional Rescue EO Recipe.

READ First article in this series, How to Stay Sane in an Insane World - Step 1: Take Charge of Yourself +Sedative EO Recipe.

†These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. All statements on this website are intended for informational purposes only.

1 comment

  • Gail Pickens-Barger

    I like to drop the oils onto an aromatherapy inhaler cotton wick and stick. Do you have a recommended ratio for dropping onto the cotton wick?

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