Healing the Shadow Essential Oils to Use

“The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love and as I change my thoughts, the world around me changes; the past is over and has no power now. It’s no fun being a victim and I refuse to be helpless anymore. I claim my own power. I give myself the gift of freedom from the past and I choose to move into the now with joy. There is no problem to big or too small that it cannot be healed with love and as I forgive myself it is easier to forgive others. I forgive myself for my inability to completely see and live my absolute perfection. I am living the very best way I know how. It is safe for me to release all my childhood traumas and move into the loving space of my heart.” ~Louise Hay, author You Can Heal Your Life


Why I'm Doing this Series


I first discovered the shadow as a very young child. I didn't know what it was exactly, but I was very aware of it. It created a great deal of confusion for me about if I was a nice person, or not.

The shadow often came up at the most inopportune times and would sabotage me and my dreams would crash and my life would fall apart for a time.

At the age of 20 when I was an undergraduate student I felt so miserable with my awareness of the shadow and the confusion caused that I began looking for help. Fortunately, I met a Jungian trained therapist who took an interest in helping me. It's taken me years of investigation to have realized the direct path to being free of the shadow.

In this series I share with you what I learned about how to be free, not only of the shadow, but of the conditioned 'false' psychological and emotional identity. So that the idea you've been conditioned to believe about who you are can fall away. The result will be that your Natural Self, the 'truth' about who you are, can shine through.

I will also talk about other manifestations of the shadow in our daily life that you may not know about.

Essential oils have been reliable allies and friends for me through the years on the path of Self Discovery. I will recommend those that may be helpful to you for different stages of healing the shadow. 

I wish I'd had the understanding I am sharing with you now way back when I started. I hope something of what I share is helpful to you!

What is the Shadow?

The shadow is a defense mechanism motivated by fear to keep you safe.

Your shadow represents the lost parts of yourself that you split off and repressed from consciousness starting in early childhood because you believed them to be unacceptable and unlovable.

Everyone has a shadow and each individual’s shadow has its own unique signature. You come to recognize and identify your shadow by the situations that trigger it.

Your triggers are emotionally loaded with your fears and are focused on past or future events.

Fear is the KEY emotion of your shadow and manifests as resistance to whatever is happening. Resistance is struggling with what is. It is your fear based reaction to stop the story you’re telling yourself about how things are and what is happening “to” you.

Affirmation: “I am willing to let go of my need for resistance.” ~Louise Hay

Essential oils I recommend to help dissolve the emotion of fear and resistance are Sweet Orange Oil, Spikenard and Ylang Ylang III.

Get my book, The Essential Oils Complete Reference Guide, on Amazon to find out even more about the amazing benefits of these and other Essential Oils for Healing the Shadow.

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†These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. All statements on this website are intended for informational purposes only.


  • Beverley J. Anderson

    Thank you for your posts. I have found them extremely helpful. Beverley

  • KG

    Hi Lily, I suggest blending these three oils in a 1:1:1 ratio. Hope this helps! Wishing you all the best.

  • LIly

    Hi K.G.,

    If you have a recipe to blend these oils together, I would like to purchase them. As an esthetician, I integrate essential oil’s daily into my practice. This would be a good blend to incorporate. Thank you for these wonderful posts. This would be a good blend to incorporate. Thank you for these wonderful and informative Posts.

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