What Anger is Telling You - 7 Insights for Healing Chronic Anger +EO Recipe

One of the two most important stages in birthing the Soul is the second Stage of Anger. 

READ the 5 Stages of Birthing the Soul +Affirmations & Essential Oils to Use

Presently, on the world stage, we are in a mass awakening (birthing of the soul). Emotional angst is at an all time high worldwide. This is perhaps the most tenuous and concerning stage of our human evolution. It can lead to massive discontent. The sense of urgency for change fuels these powerful feelings of chronic anger. Here's what you can do about it.

Anger Controls Fear

The ego mind is heavily invested in anger as a way to control any sense of fear that it is losing control.

At this stage you are especially vulnerable to being manipulated by others to their own ends. In other words, your anger can be used as a weapon against you.

I’m not talking about occasional “healthy” anger that comes when someone is crossing your boundary, or that sense of frustration you get when faced with obstacles, but rather chronic, ongoing anger in which you continually feel triggered by events and feel angry ALL the time. This kind of anger is consuming and saps you or life energy.

Chronic anger and frustration are resistance to “what is” on steroids.

At this stage there can be tremendous pain and confusion and the anger most often masks deeply hidden and suppressed fears.

The Company You Keep

It's important at the ‘anger’ stage of birthing the soul that you exercise your own common sense and not allow others to manipulate and persuade you to interpret events that benefit them, not you. Be watchful of how you feel when in the company of others, especially those in powerful positions whom you respect. How does what they say and do affect you mentally and emotionally?

How you respond to anything in life is a reflection of the meaning you give to whatever is happening.

Everyone responds differently to life events. It’s important for you to discern your truth and not be coerced into seeing things like someone else wants you to for their own selfish purposes.

Your reaction, whatever it is, is great feedback about where you are in the stages of birthing the soul (dissolving the ego mind).

So, notice how you respond to people and life events. No matter what stage you are primarily going through at the moment, dissolving your ego mind is what’s needed for healing to occur. 

7 Insights for Healing Chronic Anger

Insight 1

Simply exercising your ability to naturally notice your angry feelings, acts like a healing balm, to neutralize angry emotions. You don’t have to do anything about the emotion of anger. All that’s needed is to just start naturally notice there is a habitual mental state that attracts situations for you to feel angry about and triggers the emotion of anger.

Insight 2

Passive aggressive behavior may also be an issue. All types of passive aggressive behavior can help put you get in touch with and deal with suppressed fear and angry emotions. It’s not what happens, but how you respond that gets you your results.

3 Types of Passive Aggressive Behavior to Watch for:

  • You may express anger in a passive aggressive way, making other people responsible for your anger.
  • You may habitually attract people who act in passive aggressive ways towards you.
  • You may attract people who throw narcissistic temper tantrums to make you feel guilty, so that you will acquiesce and do what they want.

Insight 3

Anger is often a symptom of a sense of loss of control and the ego mind wants desperately to feel that it’s in charge. Of course the only thing you can be truly in charge of is yourself and your own actions or re-actions. So, take charge of your own mind.

Insight 4

You may become aware of tremendous guilt and shame beneath your anger (especially if you’re a woman) as you judge anger as being an unacceptable emotion. Society at large has burdened women for far too long with the stigma that anger is an unacceptable emotion for women to have. Anger is a natural emotion. You can choose to channel it in constructive (rather than destructive) ways.

Insight 5

You may believe that if you experience (or express) anger you will be unlovable. Being unlovable, not good enough, or in some way damaged, is a deeply buried fear of the mind that we all have when we're primarily identified as the ego mind. Becoming aware of suppressed anger has a tremendously healing effect on the psyche.

Insight 6

Learning to express anger in a healthy way is very freeing and empowering, and results in release of a great deal of pain held deeply in the body, mind and emotions.

Insight 7

There is often a tremendous build-up of suppressed anger, rage and frustration starting from early childhood when you were not allowed to express your displeasure and had to stuff your true feelings. Way back then you began interpreting the experience of angry emotions as being unacceptable and unlovable.

Anger Relief EO Recipe

The best essential oils for this stage of birthing the soul (dissolution of the ego) are the sweet, grounding and calming aromas.

Himalayan Cedarwood (Cedrus deodora) - One of most grounding and stabilizing oils in aromatherapy, cedar wood oil is used extensively in the perfume industry. It promotes self esteem and courage.

Peppermint (Mentha piperita) - Helpful for relieving tension and stress, Peppermint oil is useful for relieving occasional indigestion and stomach queasiness. It will help you take a deep, relaxing breath when you’re feeling angry and emotionally upset.

Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia) - Absolute classic oil for promoting relief of burns (angry situations). Psycho-emotionally excellent for breaking negative self talk.

Ylang Ylang III (Cananga odorata) - Especially good for soothing nervous complaints, calms agitation, regulating and balancing for the nervous system.

To a 5ml (100 drops) euro-dropper bottle add:

Ylang Ylang III - 40 drops
Lavender - 20 drops
Peppermint - 20 drops
Himalayan cedarwood - 20 drops

Cap bottle tightly and shake vigorously to blend essential oils together. Allow oils to synergies for 12 hours, or longer before using.

How to use: Dispense 1-3 drops on a cotton ball, or smell strip and inhale for 30 seconds, or longer. Repeat as needed. May also use in an aroma diffuser.

Affirmation: I express anger in healthy and positive ways that are healing for all concerned.

READ First Article in this Series, Essential Oils for Healing Negative Emotions +6 Types of Fear & 16 Common Personality Traits.


†These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. All statements on this website are intended for informational purposes only.

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